I started seeing my pussy as sovereign. I used to see her as just a part of me that I could do whatever I wanted to. I was in control of what happened down there. She did what I said, or I just ignored her. Through Tantric practices and somatic healing, I gave her sovereignty and the ability to govern herself. Now, we sit as fellow Queens in neighboring kingdoms. I ask her permission and she tells me what she wants. And I'm so much more richly connected to her than ever before.
We've had a tough relationship for years. I was always pushing her to do more and more. She was trying to press the brakes, but I never listened. I didn't know how to listen. I didn't understand her messages or language. I saw her as a subject, not a Queen.
Then last year I was working through some coaching and finally met her as a person. It started as a wild journey with a dragon protecting her. The dragon turned out to be my mind, and it was protecting her from my trauma. The dragon didn't want the trauma to reach her, but in doing so locked her out of my world. We were completely disconnected, and she seemed sad and lonely. My mind had tried to spare her, but in doing so created a different problem.
I immediately felt awful for her. I wanted to cheer her up. So, we started talking. And she told me that she wanted sovereignty. She deserved to be a Queen, too. She wanted her power back. This crushed me. I couldn't believe I had let this go on for so long. I couldn't believe I thought I was sexually free and was imprisoning my own pussy. I hated it took me this long to discover it.
I decided I was going to give her exactly what she wanted. I invited her into my Throne of the Heart and asked her to sit with me at the head of the council table and lead with me by my side. We were now equitable Queens who worked together. Neither of us is above the other. We are parallel.
And through this process I discovered her language, her messages, her feelings. I discovered how to ask her consent. I listened when she said no. I made mistakes along the way, too. It's tough to share power when you haven't before. I got to learn who she really is. And I got to feel what it was like when she is fully on board! I got to learn what her no felt like, and how to honor that gracefully. We still have struggles, especially when we disagree on what to do. And through those struggles we learn even more about each other.
I also learned that by respecting her I'm also respecting myself. That by not listening to her for all those years I wasn't actually listening to myself. My trauma pushed me to be hypersexual. So, I stopped heeding her no, and just kept going. Over and over again I kept her in her prison. And I thought I was liberated because I did whatever I wanted. But I wasn't liberated. I was living a pattern that had been learned in childhood, to override her. And once I freed her, I learned what true liberation is.
Liberation is freedom from the conditioning and patterns you were taught. It is a freedom to be your most authentic self, free of the things that are telling you what you should and shouldn't be. Liberation is embodiment, and the present moment. It exists here and now. And it can start in one part of your life and bleed into the rest. Liberation is about letting go of control and accepting. Liberation is about being the you that you are meant to be. I want to live in a world of liberated pussy, liberated cock, and liberated everything in between.
And I believe anyone can have this kind of liberation! Maybe your liberation isn't in your genitals. Maybe it's in your heart, or your mind. Maybe you don't even know what you need to be liberated from. Maybe, like me, you thought you were free. Wherever you are in your journey, I want to offer a path to this kind of total liberation. My coaching program uses a combination of ancient Tantra techniques, like breath, movement, sound, energy, and mindfulness, combined with cutting edge somatic healing to bring your whole-life liberation through your sexuality. This is the exact method I used to find a totally new level of liberation, authenticity, and pleasure! Check it out here: www.lonateachesbliss.com/coaching
INSPIRED ACTION: Try to speak with your genitals. No matter what you have down there, treat them like an autonomous being. Say hi. Feel the sensations. Ask questions. Welcome them in. Tell them you love them. Pussy, cock, and everything in between deserves to feel sovereign. Start building that relationship today.
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