Your Orgasms Are Trying to Tell You Something...

Often, we think that our pleasure is just a bonus in our lives that maybe we get the chance to fit in, but we rarely realize that it is actually trying to tell us something. Your pleasure, your orgasms are a mirror showing you into your life. What's it trying to say? Maybe it's begging you to slow down, maybe it wants you to expand, maybe it wants you to relax! Whatever it's trying to tell you, it's not just talking about your orgasm, it's pointing to a portal in your entire life! Because the blocks in your pleasure are going to ripple out to your entire life! So, let's explore some of the ways your orgasms are trying to tell you something!

I'll start with my own story on this one. I used to have 10 orgasms a session. I didn't always count, but I would say average around 10. Solo sessions definitely that many, with a partner maybe 6 or so. And I thought this meant that I was liberated! I remember bragging to friends how many orgasms I could have! But through the years, I started feeling empty after this. So, I kept chasing more. More orgasms, more vibrators, more partners, more sensation. And I got... more emptiness. After a session I would feel drained, disconnected, and unfulfilled. And this radiated out to the rest of my life, too. My career was surface level, my relationships were not deep, I was disconnected from my family.

Then I discovered Tantra. And how to move this energy around my body, instead of keeping it stuck in my pussy. I learned how to create deeper intimacy with my partners. I learned how to do less and feel more. I learned to let go of orgasm as the goal (still even working on this one sometimes! Haha!). And guess what happened? I started to feel full after pleasure. And that didn't just stay in my pleasure! My life was begging me to go deeper, to stop staying on the surface, to connect to my soul. My life wanted fulfilment! And through this journey I found my purpose in life, not just in pleasure!

So, what is your pleasure trying to tell you? Maybe you feel like you're taking "too long" to orgasm. First of all, no. There is no "perfect" time to orgasm in. What this is trying to tell you in your whole life is that maybe you're a people pleaser, maybe you don't prioritize yourself, maybe you aren't communicating well enough with your partner. And these things radiate out to the rest of your life! You don't just feel like you're taking up too much space in pleasure, you're going to feel that in your career, your relationships, your family.

Maybe you feel like you orgasm too quickly. Men, especially, I can't tell you how common this is! This could be pointing you to slow the fuck down, to increase sensation (not friction), and to focus less on the goal (even if the goal is to not orgasm). And again, you're going to find these same patterns in the rest of your life. Relax into pleasure, relax into sensation, and relax into life! Stop clinging to goals and start enjoying the journey along the way!

Maybe you can only orgasm in one specific way. Your life is calling you to have less routine and find more range! Switch things up, do things differently, and don't quit when it doesn't work immediately! Is this ringing a bell to how this is a pattern that repeats in your career, your relationships, your family? Break the cycle in your pleasure, and you will feel that ripple out to the rest of your life! Because in pleasure you are the most vulnerable, that's why it ripples out!

This is also repeated in your expression of love! Love and pleasure are where you are the most vulnerable, so this is where the blocks and resistance will show up the greatest, and it's also where you can heal it the most easily! If you somehow clear this block in your career, it doesn't ripple as easily the other way around. In fact, it might dig you even deeper in the hole in your pleasure and love because your mind will feel threatened and hold on even tighter. That's why healing it in your pleasure and love first will be the most effective way to whole-life liberation!

This is why I say, Pleasure First Healing Follows. It's not the other way around, like you were told. Pleasure is not a bonus in your life, it's your compass! So, what is your pleasure telling you? Do you need to learn to let go of control? Do you need to learn how to be more intimate? Do you need to let go of shame? Now connect that to the rest of your life. Your pleasure is a mirror. This isn't about sex, it's about your life! What if you put pleasure first in your healing journey, then watched effortlessly as it rippled out to the rest of your life?

If you're seeing this pattern now and want to start to change this, then check out my coaching container at www.lonateachesbliss.com/coaching. I put pleasure first, not because I like pleasure and think it's cool, but because I know it is the most potent path to heal these patterns in your life and liberate you! Whole-life liberation through your sexuality! So that your orgasm is not just good enough, but it transforms your entire life!

INSPIRED ACTION: Take notes on your last orgasm. What did it feel like, what thoughts were you having, how did you feel after? Try to figure out the mirror that it's holding up to your entire life! Journal about it. Because your orgasms are a portal to your liberation!